Reconciliation is an important area to work for all meditators, regardless of the stage of life we are in, both when we are young and when we grow up. It is existentially important to achieve some degree of reconciliation with the way life is. This also applies to the way our meditation is at all times.
Reconciliation with our past means being able to live with unfortunate decisions we have made in the past, without allowing our lives to be ruined in the present. We may be sad or embarrassed when we think about the challenges or opportunities we have avoided, or when we choose the easiest alternative instead of the best. The challenge is to accept these feelings without being bitter or permanently lamenting. This kind of reconciliation becomes especially important as you get older. Meditation can be helpful in finding a way to achieve this.
Meditation is the constant practice of facing challenges with a free mental attitude; for example, to resist the need to try to get rid of what we don’t like, to have things out of our minds that may not seem pleasant or right to us, to accept that sometimes it costs us. When we repeat the sound of meditation in a manner close to spontaneous activity, we allow challenging mental content to present itself to our mind. Working to achieve an attitude of reconciliation is essential in this endeavor, for all meditators. The practice of meditation promotes this process through free mental attitude.
Reconciliation takes place when we approach all thoughts, moods, and emotions in meditation with an effortless, open, and inclusive repetition of the sound of meditation. We do not reconcile directly with the contents of spontaneous activities, but indirectly through waste that is associated with our thoughts and emotions. At times, difficult personal problems may present themselves to us during meditation in a clear way, but more often than not, the content is unclear and, for example, we may feel very restless. Finding a way to reconcile our concern can make a substantial contribution to the process.
Sometimes we are aware of the personal problems we are working on; at other times, they may be vague or subconscious. What arises in meditation is often associated with central themes in our lives. For example, you may be thinking about your difficult relationship with your partner and the stress it is causing in your life. Discomfort and restlessness are the residues that arise during meditation. Although the relationship with your partner feels important enough, thoughts about that relationship may be followed by other thoughts about even more important and formative relationships in your life. When we deal with thoughts, feelings, and anxiety in an inclusive way, this paves the way for reconciliation in a broader sense, which again affects our relationships with others.
Sometimes we can understand some new connections. For example, during meditation, a feeling of being offended and angry may arise, which may be followed by a memory of a past episode when you felt humiliated by a friend who criticized you. By gently repeating the sound of meditation while letting the offense be as it is, you can change your urge to react emotionally when someone criticizes you. Reconciliation is a dimension that you bring to your meditation when you work to find a way to deal with spontaneous activity with a freer mental attitude.
By Maria S. Gjems-Onstad and Dag Spilde
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